It was an honor to do this (and every) episode with you. Your openness and humility are vital. It breaks my heart that so many make the two and become one and then give up on that commitment to God (and each other). It further breaks my heart that they don't have the tools to navigate what is a very challenging process (the two becoming one). Hopefully this episode can help them.
My comment may inspire a "gee, thanks for nothing!" response. But it's been my experience that sometimes those who cause us the most awful heartbreak can also be the means through which extraordinary blessings are bestowed.
Sometimes the person you deeply love is simply an instrument, and not your soulmate or anything of importance at all except as a catalyst, or unwitting emissary of good.
Follow your instincts and, at the same time, use a little common sense. If for some impossible-to-rationally explain reason you absolutely feel that being with a certain individual is the right choice, trust yourself. But also trust to things like a financial cushion of your own resources that are your own private business; that you never sign documents that you feel uneasy about; that you never, ever, ever let a person you love inflict physical harm on you or someone you're responsible for protecting.
But really--instincts are strange things. Sometimes you need, like, a half-century or so before you're vindicated. Just don't betray yourself.
"But really--instincts are strange things. Sometimes you need, like, a half-century or so before you're vindicated." My instinct has been something I've relied heavily on in my life. There's a lot of truth to what you say.
My process is to look at any problem, issue, topic, decision, through as much geometric thinking as possible. Every conceivable angle, what are the unintended consequences, etc., and take as long as I need, let it sit in my soul, and then trust that instinct. Sometimes it's bitten me in the end, but more often than not, that process serves me, and those around me, pretty well.
It was an honor to do this (and every) episode with you. Your openness and humility are vital. It breaks my heart that so many make the two and become one and then give up on that commitment to God (and each other). It further breaks my heart that they don't have the tools to navigate what is a very challenging process (the two becoming one). Hopefully this episode can help them.
My comment may inspire a "gee, thanks for nothing!" response. But it's been my experience that sometimes those who cause us the most awful heartbreak can also be the means through which extraordinary blessings are bestowed.
Sometimes the person you deeply love is simply an instrument, and not your soulmate or anything of importance at all except as a catalyst, or unwitting emissary of good.
Follow your instincts and, at the same time, use a little common sense. If for some impossible-to-rationally explain reason you absolutely feel that being with a certain individual is the right choice, trust yourself. But also trust to things like a financial cushion of your own resources that are your own private business; that you never sign documents that you feel uneasy about; that you never, ever, ever let a person you love inflict physical harm on you or someone you're responsible for protecting.
But really--instincts are strange things. Sometimes you need, like, a half-century or so before you're vindicated. Just don't betray yourself.
"But really--instincts are strange things. Sometimes you need, like, a half-century or so before you're vindicated." My instinct has been something I've relied heavily on in my life. There's a lot of truth to what you say.
My process is to look at any problem, issue, topic, decision, through as much geometric thinking as possible. Every conceivable angle, what are the unintended consequences, etc., and take as long as I need, let it sit in my soul, and then trust that instinct. Sometimes it's bitten me in the end, but more often than not, that process serves me, and those around me, pretty well.